What’s the first step to getting your ex boyfriend back?

Step 1

The first step is to regain control of your emotions.

So often after a breakup your emotions are out of whack. They’re all over the place. You’ve just been rejected by this person you love. Often it’s a shock, you weren’t expecting it, you didn’t see it coming.

So you’re going to be rather traumatised. And a lot of people go into panic mode because they fear losing this person they love.

So what they tend to do is try to get their ex boyfriend back by begging them, pleading with them, buying them gifts, or being overly nice, doing things that they probably should have done while in the relationship, and only doing them now to try to make up for that.

It doesn’t really work at this point because your ex has just told you that he needs space away from you. When you start acting out on your emotions, you’re actions aren’t going to be logical, rational, at least not to your ex.

It might make sense to you because you feel that your ex thinks that you don’t care, but you want to show him that you do care, but really it doesn’t work, because it’s your emotions doing the work.

And because your emotions are out of whack, they’re not going to be as effective.

First thing you need to do is calm down and regain control over your emotions again.

Step 2

The second thing you need to do is resist contact.

In fact it’s best if you had no contact at all. It just means that you are giving your ex plenty of distance. It means you’re not in his face wanting to talk about the break up, or reconcile.

You’re going to basically leave them alone and you’re going to do your own thing. You’re going to focus on yourself.

Take all that energy you’ve been putting on your ex and focus that on yourself. It’s very important to do this because like I said, if your ex has broken up with you, then most likely they wanted that distance anyway.

So if you’re always in his face, his going to get annoyed. You’re going to upset him even more and push him away even more.

It’s important to allow that space between you two and for you to think back on that relationship and your emotional control as well. It’s a win –win for both of you.

So after you’ve been in no contact for a while, you’re probably thinking how does that really get my ex boyfriend back?

I’m not talking to him, he’s not talking to me. Or he’s seeing someone else. It just doesn’t seem to be working.

Well, this is where you’re probably missing the key ingredient. The key ingredient now is that you need to do something, a very specific thing to capture his attention.

Step 3???

What you do here is very different to what you did in the past, which was constantly texting him or calling him. You are not going to do this.

Instead you need to get his attention so that he sees you as a potential love interest, not as a friend, but as a love interest. It’s a very specific thing that you have to do at this point…

A lot of people don’t know how to do this properly and it’s holding you back…

Now, I only want you to access step 3 if you are serious about getting him back. Don’t go any further if you’re still not sure.

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